How to Save Your 2nd or 3rd Marriage?
Nowadays the divorce rate is quite high, almost 39% of couples marrying today will divorce. There are so many reasons that have caused separation among many married couples. According to some surveys and online data, here are the top 10 reasons for divorce.
* Top 10 Difference in priorities and expectations
* Top 9 Addiction
* Top 8 Child-rearing issues
* Top 7 Religious and cultural strains
* Top 6 Boredom in marriage
* Top 5 Sexual incompatibility
* Top 4 Marital Financial issues
* Top 3 Physical, psychological or emotional abuse
* Top 2 Communication breakdown in relationships
* Top 1 Marriage Infidelity: top reasons for divorce
So we can’t help thinking how to keep a harmony relationship. I’ve read a post recently and think it may offer us some solution to deal with the rocky relationship. Let’s read it for our happy marriage!
Save Your 2nd, 3rd or 4th Marriage
Is your second, third or fourth marriage in trouble? Don’t just pull the plug. “People tend to get divorced for the same reasons, over and over again, but you can break the cycle and make your marriage stronger,” says Santa Monica, Calif. therapist Shari Foos, M.F.T., who specializes in couples counseling. Before you split for good, take the following steps toward potential salvation.
Spend some alone time. During your solice, try to identify and explore the issues that are evoking the pain, anxiety, frustration, hurt and other disturbing feelings, says Foos. “Beware of dumping your unresolved angers and hurts from your last marriage onto this one — for it’s a common mistake people make.”
Get perspective. Cultivate a rational perspective on your behavior and marriage by reading up on divorce prevention. Go to your local bookstore to find a selection of current titles.
Map it out. A written map or outline of your present relationship can help organize your thoughts and assist you in individual or couples counseling. “Be honest with yourself and write down what your role may be in your marriage’s problem areas,” says Sarahjane Ferber, a licensed clinical social worker and therapist in Chicago.
It’s also vital to note the positive roles your spouse plays. “Taking this list to a therapist, a clergyman/counselor or to a couples counselor can help you resolve frustrating differences in a rational and orderly manner,” Ferber says.